Monday, February 20, 2006
Permission
Last night I watched a guy get blown out of set simply because he was permission seeking.
When you approach a stranger to talk to them, YOU have to be the one who decides if you're supposed to be there, not them. Society tells us that strangers are bad, so if you act like a stranger, you will be treated like one.
If you act like an old friend...do you need her permission to sit down with her? Do you need her permission to chat?
An important principle in pickup is that your internal state will reflect onto the girl you are approaching. You want this to be warm, confident, relaxed, and playful. You do not want to hesitate. If you do, then she will too.
When you approach a stranger to talk to them, YOU have to be the one who decides if you're supposed to be there, not them. Society tells us that strangers are bad, so if you act like a stranger, you will be treated like one.
If you act like an old friend...do you need her permission to sit down with her? Do you need her permission to chat?
An important principle in pickup is that your internal state will reflect onto the girl you are approaching. You want this to be warm, confident, relaxed, and playful. You do not want to hesitate. If you do, then she will too.
|| Knoweldge One (Formerly Spitkicker), 5:30 PM
