I love to watch people.
When I go out, I see 200 guys in the club all trying to be as drunk as possible and as super loud as possible in order to fit in. Everyone
knows that if they can be as outgoing and drunk and rowdy as possible, they won't be forced to have their own identity - they can simply be one of the party guys.
Then I see the 5-10 guys in the place who are operating on a whole different level. These guys are chilling - smiling - and chatting with the girls. These are the 5 guys that are going to get laid - the other 200 are just going to wake up with hangovers.
Part of being alpha - of having a strong reality - is being able to exist on your own wavelength. Just because there are 200 guys in the place acting like idiots, doesn't mean you need to be the 201st.