ZEN and the art of ATTRACTION.

You've heard it before, and I'll repeat it again, "Be Desireless"

You truly can't care about the outcome of the interaction. Now, this is not the same thing as being indifferent or cold.

Alot of guys hear this and think "Be Desireless? Hmm, that means that she can't know that I like her!" or "I have to tell her she's ugly and that she's like a spolied little girl". These guys are missing the point.

Pretending that you're not interested in a hot girl is something that every guy tries in the 5th grade, and it doesn't work. Then they try it again when they are twenty. Still, it doesn't work!

You can show interest, be fascinated by her, and let her know how wonderful she is. This is all part of game. Being true to yourself, being true to others, and making others feel good about themselves.

Wait, Spitkicker, I thought you said "be desireless?"

Desire: "To wish or long for; want."

Just because you're fascinated by something doesn't mean you wish for it or you long for it. Just because you let someone know that they're special doesn't mean that you long for them.

Desire = neediness

You just can't be outcome oriented. You can't be thinking "wow, I want to get this girl in the sack" or "what the hell can I say to get her to come home?"

When you are nothing but nice to her, are vibing with her, letting her know how wonderful she is, relating to her on a very real level, but not reeking of "desire", she's yours.