ZEN and the art of ATTRACTION.

You must be, yourself.

Notice the comma. Read it out loud. Pause for a second after the word 'be'.

Think about it. What's it mean to Be....yourself?

In your journey to become better with women, surely you will come in contact with some truly great ladies men. Weather it be in person, or simply through maybe reading Tyler or Juggler's Archives, you will share your journey with others.

I think we are all guilty in feeling secure in the "presence" of others who are better than us.

It's as if we think we're automatically better with women, if we associate ourselves with the world's best.

But ultimately, its only you.
It's only yourself.
And you must BE, yourself.
Not, the community.

You cannot BE, Juggler.

Juggler is probably off somewhere reading a book..and you? what are you doing? you must BE BEING YOU.

Too often we rest on others' contributions. You must learn to rely only on yourself.

Imagine this:

You belong to a great group of guys, who have LOTS of fun.

You shold be glad, you really should.

But remember, that this group is fun because it consists of lots of guys BEING fun. In order to create this sort of environment, everyone in the group themselves must BE, fun.

You cannot loaf. It doesn't work that way. The second you try to let others "create" the fun for you, so that you can just take, the fun will disappear. Why does this happen?

Dr. Alex Benzer, Author of the Extraordinary Tao Of Dating, discusses this concept in his ebook.

If you ask the universe "What can I take?" , It will come right back at you and ask "what can I take?" But if you ask it, "how can i serve?" It will look at you and ask, "How can I serve?"

Imagine the extraordinary quality of your life if the universe were continually asking itself, "How Can I Serve You?"

I encourage you to pickup a copy of Benzer's book, The Tao of Dating, it will be one of the best investments that you have ever made. It will help you change your entire thought structure.