Students of the way, if you wish to become buddha, you need not study any doctrine; you must only learn to avoid seeking and attaching yourselves to anything. -Zen Master Huang-po, ninth century
so a little clarification: you were an ardent juggler fan, now you're recommending The Tao of Dating. I looked at both and like them. I haven't yet bought Tao though. Can you tell me/us if they're mutually exclusive? what's the best from both? how do you synthesize them? Juggler conversational techniques and emotional relating are awesome. Does Benzer talk about this stuff at all? Do you even use Juggler anymore?