Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Showing her that you get "it:"
Social reference theory says that everyone looks to everyone else for cues about what to do in certain social situations. Everyone thinks everyone else has the answer. Everyone looks to follow the leader, sometimes to such an extent that large groups are paralyzed by inaction because they are all collectively looking for the right cue.
In pickup, your job is to just assume this leadership role. It doesn’t matter if you’re taking them down the right path or the wrong path, just take them down a path. Want to talk about a boring topic? Be my guest, just take them down the path. Want to talk about something crazy and exciting and emotional? Even better.
The key to pickup, is showing them that you get “it”. The way you show them that you get “it” is by taking the wheel and just conveying them that yea, you know where you’re going, it’s cool.
This is why Juggler doesn’t know what he’s going to say before he opens. Nothing he could say is wrong, it all just “is” (very zen, no?)
Really, though, as long as you act like you know what you’re doing, keep the conversation going, and essentially “fake it”, you will in fact “make it”.
She’s just looking to see if you’ve got “it” and she judges this by how well you can lead her down a conversational path.
She doesn’t know what topics are right are wrong, she’s not looking for you to say one magical thing. If she sees that you know where you’re going, she’ll join you for the ride, no matter where it takes her. Why? Because you’re attractive..
In pickup, your job is to just assume this leadership role. It doesn’t matter if you’re taking them down the right path or the wrong path, just take them down a path. Want to talk about a boring topic? Be my guest, just take them down the path. Want to talk about something crazy and exciting and emotional? Even better.
The key to pickup, is showing them that you get “it”. The way you show them that you get “it” is by taking the wheel and just conveying them that yea, you know where you’re going, it’s cool.
This is why Juggler doesn’t know what he’s going to say before he opens. Nothing he could say is wrong, it all just “is” (very zen, no?)
Really, though, as long as you act like you know what you’re doing, keep the conversation going, and essentially “fake it”, you will in fact “make it”.
She’s just looking to see if you’ve got “it” and she judges this by how well you can lead her down a conversational path.
She doesn’t know what topics are right are wrong, she’s not looking for you to say one magical thing. If she sees that you know where you’re going, she’ll join you for the ride, no matter where it takes her. Why? Because you’re attractive..
|| Knoweldge One (Formerly Spitkicker), 6:28 PM
Really eye-opening to see that what you say is irrelevant, as long as you keep composure and let the conversation flow.