Monday, April 17, 2006
How to Run Game
On opening:
The first words really don't mean much. They don't have to tie into your second or third topic of conversation, they simply have to break the silence. Let the silence linger too long and your window of opportunity closes... "Hi" works pretty well. Nine times out of ten, you're going to want to follow this with something light and situational. Look into yourself for this one. What's something that you're experiencing? Chances are she's feeling/thinking something similar.
Your Intent:
Make your only goal in any interaction to find out as much as you can about the other person. Who are they? Where are they coming from? Where are they going? What are there hopes/dreams? Relationship situation/experience? What are they studying? Really care about this stuff. Take a vested interest in them and they will open up to you.
Your Vibe: Chatty, friendly, cool, curious
Your tool of choice: The vacuum. Read about it in Juggler's "How To Be a Pickup Artist"
How to know she's into you:
She's talking fast and acting like you would if you were nervous. She's stumbling over words. She's telling you stories. She's trying to entertain you. After a little while, stop with the questions. She will then start reciprocating "So...umm....what are you studying?" Give her a little information to reward her effort and then turn it back to her. How does SHE feel?
Let her know you're listening:
Periodically ask her to clarify points. Ask her to explain where
exactly she's from because you're not sure where that's near. Refer
back to early parts in the conversation and bring up things she's said.
A great line (credit to juggler):
"So, what type of art do you do?"
This is classic Juggler stuff. All girls think that they are artists and will have some answer ready to go for you. On top of that, they will be flattered that you think so highly of them and they become instantly engaged.
Finally: Act normal. That's all she's looking for. A normal guy who can keep his cool and engage in a social exchange. Not a joker. Not an illusionist. Not an entertainer.
The first words really don't mean much. They don't have to tie into your second or third topic of conversation, they simply have to break the silence. Let the silence linger too long and your window of opportunity closes... "Hi" works pretty well. Nine times out of ten, you're going to want to follow this with something light and situational. Look into yourself for this one. What's something that you're experiencing? Chances are she's feeling/thinking something similar.
Your Intent:
Make your only goal in any interaction to find out as much as you can about the other person. Who are they? Where are they coming from? Where are they going? What are there hopes/dreams? Relationship situation/experience? What are they studying? Really care about this stuff. Take a vested interest in them and they will open up to you.
Your Vibe: Chatty, friendly, cool, curious
Your tool of choice: The vacuum. Read about it in Juggler's "How To Be a Pickup Artist"
How to know she's into you:
She's talking fast and acting like you would if you were nervous. She's stumbling over words. She's telling you stories. She's trying to entertain you. After a little while, stop with the questions. She will then start reciprocating "So...umm....what are you studying?" Give her a little information to reward her effort and then turn it back to her. How does SHE feel?
Let her know you're listening:
Periodically ask her to clarify points. Ask her to explain where
exactly she's from because you're not sure where that's near. Refer
back to early parts in the conversation and bring up things she's said.
A great line (credit to juggler):
"So, what type of art do you do?"
This is classic Juggler stuff. All girls think that they are artists and will have some answer ready to go for you. On top of that, they will be flattered that you think so highly of them and they become instantly engaged.
Finally: Act normal. That's all she's looking for. A normal guy who can keep his cool and engage in a social exchange. Not a joker. Not an illusionist. Not an entertainer.
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Saturday, April 15, 2006
Interesting vs. Interested
There are 2 ways to be attractive.
The first is to be incredibly interesting. The second is to be interested.
Both work incredibly well.
If your goal is to get good with women as fast as possible, you're going to want to figure out how to be interested. Then, over the longer period of time, work on making yourself interesting.
I think this is a big problem with most guys' approach to improving their game. They focus so much of their energy on giving the appearance of being fascinating that they forget to show their interest to women.
You'll be suprised at how much you develop when you stop thinking about yourself and start focusing on others.
The first is to be incredibly interesting. The second is to be interested.
Both work incredibly well.
If your goal is to get good with women as fast as possible, you're going to want to figure out how to be interested. Then, over the longer period of time, work on making yourself interesting.
I think this is a big problem with most guys' approach to improving their game. They focus so much of their energy on giving the appearance of being fascinating that they forget to show their interest to women.
You'll be suprised at how much you develop when you stop thinking about yourself and start focusing on others.
Sunday, April 09, 2006
The Structure of Vibing
Vibing is the basis of all interactions. No matter how many tricks or techniques you know (or think you know), without the ability to vibe, you're dead in the water.
Everyone tells you to vibe, but no one tells you how. So without further ado, here's a little structure to help you out.
1) Surface level question: what'd you do for spring break?
2) Level 2 question: Oh, cool, how was that?
3) (a) relate back if something comes to mind that isn't too far of a stretch
(b) "oh, really, how did you feel about that?"
4. If (b) was chose last time, now you relate.
5. You should now be vibing with her... be free and keep it organic. The sooner you get out of your head and stop using this structure, the better.
For an amazing collection of posts on vibing check out Chad's "Hi, I'm a Good Vibe" series of posts at the Charisma Arts Weblog
Everyone tells you to vibe, but no one tells you how. So without further ado, here's a little structure to help you out.
1) Surface level question: what'd you do for spring break?
2) Level 2 question: Oh, cool, how was that?
3) (a) relate back if something comes to mind that isn't too far of a stretch
(b) "oh, really, how did you feel about that?"
4. If (b) was chose last time, now you relate.
5. You should now be vibing with her... be free and keep it organic. The sooner you get out of your head and stop using this structure, the better.
For an amazing collection of posts on vibing check out Chad's "Hi, I'm a Good Vibe" series of posts at the Charisma Arts Weblog
Friday, April 07, 2006
Charisma Arts
You guys know how much I love juggler, so you can imagine how excited I was when I found that he's got a new company name and a new website.
They've officially changed the name from "Charisma Sciences Institute" to "Charisma Arts".
Along with the name change, they've totally redone the site, adding new blog entries (Check out "I'm a good vibe" parts 1,2, and 3), podcasts and free trials of all the material. It's really kick ass.
In addition, Juggler's free 14 lesson e-course is nearing completion, and from what I know about it, it's going to blow any other free resource on the internet away. The guy has been working on this thing for almost a year now, and is in the process of tweaking it so that it's just right.
Also, I talked to John, the business manager (his post "the entertainment trap" is discussed below), and he told me about a really cool feature that they are building into the site. I can't talk about it until its finished, but to say that it's going to help improve the quality of alot of guys lives is an understatement..
To access the website, Click Here
Anyways, that's all for now. I've been busy lately, but will be posting tomorrow about how to vibe and take an interaction to a deeper level.
They've officially changed the name from "Charisma Sciences Institute" to "Charisma Arts".
Along with the name change, they've totally redone the site, adding new blog entries (Check out "I'm a good vibe" parts 1,2, and 3), podcasts and free trials of all the material. It's really kick ass.
In addition, Juggler's free 14 lesson e-course is nearing completion, and from what I know about it, it's going to blow any other free resource on the internet away. The guy has been working on this thing for almost a year now, and is in the process of tweaking it so that it's just right.
Also, I talked to John, the business manager (his post "the entertainment trap" is discussed below), and he told me about a really cool feature that they are building into the site. I can't talk about it until its finished, but to say that it's going to help improve the quality of alot of guys lives is an understatement..
To access the website, Click Here
Anyways, that's all for now. I've been busy lately, but will be posting tomorrow about how to vibe and take an interaction to a deeper level.
Monday, April 03, 2006
Our Deepest Fear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It's not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
-Marianne Williamson
-Marianne Williamson
