ZEN and the art of ATTRACTION.

So where have I been?

If only you knew...

The last few months have been spent going out - alot. Alot, alot.

I've hooked up with some of the top guys in the game and have just been enjoying myself and refining my thoughts on the game...new clarity comes with every passing night.

So, now I'm back. Doing what I have always done..

Passing it all on to you.

The blog's got a new address "zenandattraction.blogspot.com"

and I'm taking up a new moniker...

KnowledgeOne

Why?

I'll explain in my next post..

But for now, just bookmark this site, because honestly, there's gonna be some great stuff coming soon...


K1

I'm always intriuged by people's past perceptions of me. Today I was talking to a girl whom I met before I got into this whole game thing and she was telling me just how attractive I was. She told me all the things she loved about me - and how I came across.

Things like this happen all of the time.

Now the point of this post is not to brag. It's to show how you don't really need to learn anything in the first place.

This whole thing is just a big head fuck.

You see, shortly after I met this girl was when I decided that I had "no game". See how the two don't make sense when put together?

It's all in your head. You'll figure this out eventually - I'd rather just let you in on the secret now.

Social reference theory says that everyone looks to everyone else for cues about what to do in certain social situations. Everyone thinks everyone else has the answer. Everyone looks to follow the leader, sometimes to such an extent that large groups are paralyzed by inaction because they are all collectively looking for the right cue.

In pickup, your job is to just assume this leadership role. It doesn’t matter if you’re taking them down the right path or the wrong path, just take them down a path. Want to talk about a boring topic? Be my guest, just take them down the path. Want to talk about something crazy and exciting and emotional? Even better.

The key to pickup, is showing them that you get “it”. The way you show them that you get “it” is by taking the wheel and just conveying them that yea, you know where you’re going, it’s cool.

This is why Juggler doesn’t know what he’s going to say before he opens. Nothing he could say is wrong, it all just “is” (very zen, no?)

Really, though, as long as you act like you know what you’re doing, keep the conversation going, and essentially “fake it”, you will in fact “make it”.

She’s just looking to see if you’ve got “it” and she judges this by how well you can lead her down a conversational path.

She doesn’t know what topics are right are wrong, she’s not looking for you to say one magical thing. If she sees that you know where you’re going, she’ll join you for the ride, no matter where it takes her. Why? Because you’re attractive..

Today is Sunday, December 10, 2006.

Exactly one year ago I was on the flight home from my Charisma Arts Charm School weekend. Wow.

Charisma Arts wasn't the start of my journey and it certainly wasn't the end of my journey, but it flipped the switched. It brought me from the dark into the light in literally seventytwo hours. A life changing experience. Really.

Prior to my bootcamp I saw pickup and seduction as a sort of algorithim to be figured out. A skill to be learned. A long, grueling process that once mastered would become a sort of computer program that I could "run" everytime i met girls.

While this mindset helps in terms of depersonalizing the game it can kill you slowly in other ways. It makes you opportunistic. Calculating. It's depressing to think of other human beings as targets and such.

What started as a search for connection ended up making me so lonely.

Then there was the bootcamp. There were no secret techniques taught to me, just a way of being. Really, all game is about just being.

I could write 50 pages about this, but I'm sure you've heard it before.

I encourage any of you who havn't yet taken a bootcamp to do so. It really is an incredibly experience; one that completely shifts your perspective and gives you a glimpse of just how awesome life can really be.

The biggest breakthrough that you will ever come to realize is that there is no game. The whole secret is that there is no secret.

What??

There is nothing you have to "Do" to get the girl. It is the illusion in your mind, that you do in fact have to "Do" something, that screws you up. You think that you have to have this intangible thing called "game" that is learned and practiced and kept secret when in fact all you have to do is kill the idea that game exists.

When you talk to a guy who is naturally good with women, he'll tell you: just be yourself.

Bingo

When you talk to a guy who struggles with women he'll tell you: be cocky and funny, neg the target, do such and such, wear this or that....

The natural is getting laid. The loser isn't.

One of them is doing tons of stuff, the other is just being lazy...and getting the girls.

Pick apart the advice. The natural isn't trying to guard the secret - as far as he's concerned, there is no secret. To him it is so far out of his reality that he would have to do all this calculated stuff to get a girl...it's just nonsense to him.

I used to have this belief that I could have fun ONLY after I learned the game. I would tell myself "man, if i cant just figure out how to get girls in bed, then I wouldn't have to worry about all of this...I could just go out and enjoy myself". It was this one limiting belief that kept me from truly having fun when I went out.

Now, standing at the top of the mountain and looking down I realize that this was the very reason I wasn't "getting it"

What you have to get is the fact that there is nothing to get.

Often the toughest sets are opened with nothing more than honesty.

You're in a new location, you know absolutely no one and you havn't opened a single set yet.

You see a gorgeous, dark girl with stunning blue eyes. She's sitting in the middle of a group of five blonde girls.

Your opener?

I'll give you a hint...it has nothing to do with rockstars named david bowie..

Lets try...

"You know, I've never been here before...I'm from xyz...and don't know ANYONE here...you look like a great person to meat!"

BINGO.

You're vibe is warm. You're company is fun. You're so fucking money.

The cutest little puppy ran up to me yesterday. Seriously, this thing was like 12 inches by 12 inches.

It rolled over. It smiled. It jumped on me. Its owner watched with a grin.

"She does this with everyone. He's damn friendly"

Then, after a good two minute play session - the highlight of my day- I went on my way, the puppy on his.

The difference? When I turned around, still thinking about the little guy, he was already on to his next adventure - chasing a squirrel.

To the puppy, it's never "it sucks here, no one to play with"...no, to this little guy it's "everything is so fucking cool, I just want to play, play, play, play"

Be like the puppy. ok?